Moving past Hurt

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By Jay Marburger

 

John 16:33: “I have told you these things so that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But be of good cheer. I have overcome the world.”

sad-004Have you ever felt so hurt? Someone said something, or did something and it hurt you badly? How could they do this to you? ‘Why did this happen to me?’ you ask. I don’t deserve this.  That wasn’t called for. It isn’t fair.

The unfortunate truth about life is that getting hurt or experiencing pain is just part of the package. As undeserving as it may be, it still happens. We all say and do things to one another that inflict pain. This isn’t always a deliberate choice; sometimes even good intentions can come out badly.

It’s very easy to remain in that state of pain. The temptation to wallow in the “I feel bad about this” phase may reward you with some degree of comfort. Particularly if we feel that what was done to us was unjust and therefore we have a right to feel bad. Here is the good news, that is certainly true! Pain MUST be acknowledged. And pain is real. Pretending you’re not feeling hurt is not healthy. However, the ‘bad’ news is…you cannot feel that way forever. At some point, something has got to give.

Remember Job in the Bible? From everything…to nothing. That was his story. How ironical that all that happened to him had nothing to do bad decisions on his part.

Job 1:1-There was a man in the land of Uz, whose name was Job; and that man was perfect and upright, and one that feared God, and turned away from evil.

For all intents and purposes, Job should have been having the time of his life. Perfect and upright, that was Job. Yet, some verses later…his world is turned upside down. Job was hurting badly.

So what should you do?

The best way to deal with hurt is to begin by acknowledging it. Then, you must make a conscious decision to not let it marinate in your heart, otherwise you’ll develop bitterness and resentment, two very complicated cups of tea on their own. In the Lord’s Prayer we pray, “Forgive us our sins as we forgive others who sin against us”. That’s our reality as Christians.

Learning to forgive.

This is not to say you act as if you weren’t hurt, but that you don’t let the pain you feel keep you from relating to others, even if they are the ones that have hurt you. God encourages us in John 16:33: “I have told you these things so that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But be of good cheer. I have overcome the world.”

We serve a God who is not insensitive to our feelings. Whether we feel it or not, He understands what we go through. We must remain in Him, and seek His way in dealing with ‘tribulation’. Just imagine the number of times we too have hurt God in one way or another. What would it be like if He held on to the hurt we inflicted on Him?

Letting go is part of healing for you and me. Pray for those that have hurt you, and those you have hurt. Aim for reconciliation as far as you are able to. Above all, allow God to come in and heal your pain. And remember, He has never left you, neither has He forsaken you. He is right there walking with you, through it all.

 

Prayer

Lord God Almighty,

Thank you so much for all you are. Thank you for your love, your mercy and your grace towards us. Right now, I come and place all my hurt before you. Words have been spoken that hurt me. Things have been done to me that have left me bruised and broken. I lay all these things before you. I ask that you help me heal from the hurt, and not allow the pain to make me bitter and full of resentment. I pray that you will help me forgive those that have hurt me as I release them to you. Forgive me Father, where I too have hurt others. As far as is possible, show me where I need to reconcile with others in my life. I thank you for being such a kind and loving God who never abandons His children. I put my trust in you, expecting your help through this pain. To you be all the glory and honor. In Jesus name I have prayed, Amen.

9 thoughts on “Moving past Hurt

  1. Jan Ryder says:

    Honest, helpful, practical, Biblical! So well written. Thank you, you have given us a sweet gift and good solid wisdom.

  2. George says:

    That is so touching. Thank you so much Jay. Keep up with the great work.

    Can we have a share button where we can post in social media, emails.

    1. Hi George,

      Thanks! Glad to be of some help. Share button coming right up…

  3. SN says:

    Thanks for this. It has spoken to a situation I have been facing in a timely manner.

    Its interesting how God uses the most unlikely of situations to confirm his will for our lives and speak directly into our situation. This piece is that platform which He has used.

    1. Hi Stella,

      Glad you have found some truth that has helped you. God continue blessing you.

  4. Kimtai says:

    Jay,

    Thanks so much for this. All of us fall in this pit, of hurting and being hurt. Its true, that our God not insensitive to our feelings despite our falling. I love the bit where you say “We must remain in Him, and seek His way in dealing with ‘tribulation’.” God bless you Jay.

    1. Edwin,

      Thank you. It is true, many times God seems so far removed from our troubles, but the truth is, He is always there. And yes, it is better for us to remain in Him, no matter the situation. Many blessings to you Edwin.

  5. Lorraine says:

    Beautiful article, Jay. Honest, heartfelt, and simply beautiful. Thank you, dear one!

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